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I was married for over 20 years to a wonderful man; however he passed away some years ago from pneumonia. Since then, I have been thrown into the dating world, and it has come to my attention that both women and men use mind games and manipulation tactics to control their partners. My last relationship was one of the worst. Keep in mind, this was worst for me because I had a wonderful marriage. Ok. Back to the story. I gave of myself and of my time while working full-time and completing graduate school. During this relationship, I experienced infidelity, emotional manipulation, and betrayal. During this time, I also heard stories from other women in similar situations where their husbands left the marriage after 5, 10, even 15 years. Other stories involved women experiencing chronic gaslighting by their partner.  Some of these women are choosing to stay in these emotionally and mentally abusive relationships either because they don't want to be alone or they are financially dependent upon their partner.

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After the breakup of my last relationship and hearing these stories, I realized enough was enough! I knew I had to take action to better educate women on self-love, self-awareness, and the behaviors and beliefs of masculinity. During my journey, to make sure that I was getting the complete picture, I needed to also talk with single and married men. Surprisingly, I discovered that some of them also experienced trauma either in their relationship or from childhood. It's not at the same magnitude as it is for women, however, it does occur. Many of them, even good responsible husbands, feel as though they don't have a voice in their relationship and many feel unappreciated. This was quite surprising to me. 

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Based on these responses, I concluded that many relationship issues stem from a lack of understanding of their partner and how social and cultural constructs influence beliefs and behaviors. I can't save every relationship; however, this is an opportunity to educate and inform others about the dating process, what's needed for a successful relationship, and the science behind women and men, such as thought processes. Much of my content will consist of topics such as healthy versus unhealthy behaviors in relationships, best communication practices, the impact of childhood trauma, conflict resolutions, coping mechanisms, and social factors that influence our beliefs and behaviors.

​The goal of Dating and Relationships Advice is to create a healthy space for men and women to interact, reflect on the inner self, explore new narratives, and gain a different perspective for what's required for a healthy relationship in today's society.